Tag Archives: Playlistening

Kids piling on top of parents.

Safely exploring fear – “Wrestlemania” at our house

When you master the art of roughhousing, you send a strong message to your children: Your power is welcome here, this is a place for you to be strong and confident, I will keep you safe, and we will be closer and more connected than ever.[1]

Rough (but safe), boisterous physical play is a kind of Playlistening.  It is incredibly helpful to young people (and it’s good for us grown-ups too). DeBenedet and Cohen, who have written a lovely book which details the theory and practice of this kind of play, make a bold claim:

“Play – especially active physical play, like roughhousing – makes kids smart, emotionally intelligent, lovable and likable, ethical, physically fit, and joyful.”[2]

What parent wouldn’t want that?
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Singing Up A Storm

A mother came to a talk that I ran earlier this year on “Helping Children With Their Fears”. Later, she told me this story:

“My son, who is 9, is a good singer, had gone through an audition process and been selected to sing a solo part in a choral concert at the Opera House.  He was extremely anxious about this.  He is really smart, but tends to be very sensitive.  Before the concert, he developed a tic in his eye and was having bad dreams at night, waking up screaming.

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Singing Up A Storm: Welcome to Our October Newsletter

Welcome to our October Newsletter.  A story about how one mother used Playlistening to build her boy’s confidence, and then Staylistened to the feelings afterwards.  New Parenting by Connection Online Starter Class beginning soon.  And free links and resources to support your parenting.

Singing Up A Storm: Parenting by Connection October Newsletter